Throughout
January and year-round, mentoring is a critical component in young people’s
lives, helping them make decisions that ultimately lead to improved
opportunities and connections, which have an impact on real life.
9
million kids in America grow up without a mentor to offer real life guidance.
- Having
a mentor empowers young people to make smart choices that put them on a path to
making better life decisions.
- Students
who have mentors are more likely to stay in school.
- Hashtag
activism can raise awareness of important issues, but mentoring delivers
real-life impact.
Mentoring,
at its core, guarantees to young people that there is someone who cares about
them, assures them they are not alone in dealing day to day challenges, and
makes them feel like they matter. Research confirms that quality mentoring
relationships have powerful positive effects on young people in a variety of
personal, academic, and professional situations. Ultimately, mentoring connects
a young person to personal growth and development, and social and economic
opportunity. Yet one in three young people will grow up without this critical
asset.
Young
adults who were at-risk for falling off track but had a mentor are:
•
55%
more likely to enroll in college
•
78%
more likely to volunteer regularly
•
90%
are interested in becoming a mentor
•
130%
more likely to hold leadership positions.
WHAT MAKES A GOOD
MENTOR?
Before becoming a
mentor, here are a few things to understand about the role of mentoring. Most
of us have had a teacher, supervisor or coach who has been a mentor to us and
made a positive difference in our lives. Those people wore many hats, acting as
delegators, role models, cheerleaders, policy enforcers, advocates, and
friends. Mentors assume these different roles during the course of a
relationship, and share some basic qualities:
- A sincere desire
to be involved with a young person
- Respect for young
people
- Active listening
skills
- Empathy
- Ability to see
solutions and opportunities
- Flexibility
BENEFITS
Mentoring relationships
are a shared opportunity for learning and growth. Many mentors say that the
rewards they gain are as substantial as those for their mentees, and that
mentoring has enabled them to:
- Have fun
- Achieve personal
growth and learn more about themselves
- Improve their
self-esteem and feel they are making a difference
- Gain a better
understanding of other cultures and develop a greater appreciation for
diversity
- Feel more
productive and have a better attitude at work
- Enhance their relationships with their own
children
Above all, a good
mentor is willing to take the time to get to know their mentee, to learn new
things that are important to the young person, and even to be changed by their
relationship.
GET STARTED
You have made a
wonderful and very important decision in choosing to become a mentor. If you’ve
reached this conclusion, you’ve done enough research to have an idea how
different each mentoring situation can be. Before you start to look at the
programs that are available, think about and identify your own interests and
needs. Finding a mentoring program you’re excited about and comfortable with
can require some time and thought, but the good news is that there’s something
for everyone. The following steps will help walk you through the process of
choosing a mentoring program that is right for you. To help you decide which
type of mentoring program you want, ask yourself the following questions:
- What time
commitment can I make?
- What age of youth
would I like to work with?
- Would I like to
work with one child or with a group of children?
- Would I like to
team with other adults to mentor a child or a group of children?
- What types of
activities interest me? Do I want to help a youth learn a specific skill,
pursue an interest, help with schoolwork or just be a caring adult friend?
- What mentoring location would I prefer?
While thinking about
these questions, remember to be open and flexible to all the different
mentoring programs and focus areas that are out there.
The Volunteer Center of Cedar
Valley works with a number of agencies looking for mentors: Big Brothers Big
Sisters of Northeast Iowa, Boys & Girls Clubs of the Cedar Valley, Girl
Scouts of Eastern Iowa and Western Illinois, and the Waterloo Community School District are a few.
For more details on mentoring, contact the
Volunteer Center of Cedar Valley at (319) 272-2087, information@vccv.org, or
visit www.vccv.org.
Thanks
to National Mentoring Month, http://www.mentoring.org/.